Connection During Overwhelming Times


Most of us are staying home due to the coronavirus. This has created a great amount of fear and uncertainty in many areas of our lives. Will my family be safe and healthy? How will this affect my job? How can I pay my bills when I can’t go to work?

There are several points I would like us to remember.

  1. Keep this in perspective. Viruses have always been with us. They come and they go. Some have more intense symptoms than others, however, God has given us bodies that develop antibodies to fight off the viruses and bring us back to health. Remember, there is a flu (influenza) season each year and the medical community have developed helps for preventing us from getting the virus or medicine that will treat us and make us well again.
  2. Remember there is a bigger picture. For those of us who have a biblical worldview, there is a calm assurance that the God of the universe is with us even through this. How do we know he cares about us and is with us? This past weekend we celebrate an event that changed the world and our understanding of death and what happens after death.

What Jesus did long ago, that we still celebrate today at Easter, is as an innocent man allowed himself to be unjustly killed. He did this on purpose for a purpose. He said it himself, “God so loved the world that he gave his only son, that whoever believe in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.”

You might wonder, what does that have to do with me in the world today and what do we need to be saved from? We all struggle with our human nature that seems to drive us to do destructive actions toward ourselves and others. Jesus said, “For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these things come from within and defile a person.” Well, that pretty much covers it. I know I struggle with a number of the things on the list.

What is the good news? The good news is you can be free and forgiven from this destructive nature. Jesus can reconnect you to God. Jesus tells us that God is our heavenly father and he wants a relationship with us. When we admit we need him and put our trust in Jesus, we receive this eternal life and become a new person. It’s like being born again. The old person is gone, and we are a new person who is forgiven and free. God guides us in our daily lives and we can be assured that if we die we will go to heaven.

Judy and I have done this, and it has calmed our fears, because  no matter what we encounter in this life, he is there with us. If you have questions or would like to talk more about this please give us a call or an email.

3. Reassure each other with the confidence of the solution to the fear of death.

How do you that? You can point to the evidence of a biblical worldview: historical evidence, archaeological evidence, testimonial evidence. A great resource is the book, Evidence That Demands a Verdict by Josh McDowell. And another resource is people you know who can share why they have hope even in overwhelming times.

4. Remember to keep the connection by doing activities together.

Confident parents have the important role of introducing fun and play into the family. It is important to note that fun and play does not equal spending money. Some of the free simple forms of fun and play often can be the most memorable. 

It is important to note that fun and play
does not equal spending money.
Some of the free simple forms of fun and play
often can be the most memorable.

Our children and young adults (teens) crave more than anything else in life is to be loved and needed. Confident parents provide those by developing a heart-string connection to them early in life and a family atmosphere with large amounts of time for fun, togetherness and learning.

Simple memorable family activities take a little creativity, yet they will draw your family together like few other activities. Here are a list from the Very Well Family website.

Make a “tent” out of sheets. Take turns reading to each other.

Make milkshakes or smoothies. Conduct kitchen science experiments.

Paint your nails together. Have a spa night with oatmeal-honey facials.

Look through old photo albums together.

Watch your child’s favorite TV show or movie together.

Play a video game together. Exercise together.

Do a puzzle. Play a board game.

Help them clean their room. Rearrange their bedroom furniture.

Pull out a box of toys they haven’t played with for a while. Build Legos together.

Play with dolls together. Play store, restaurant, or ice cream stand together.

Go to the park. Ride bikes.

Sit outside and look at the stars. Eat breakfast together.

Teach your child how to cook. Teach your child how to play solitaire or chess.

Style your child’s hair. Let your child style your hair.

Share a memory about how you handled conflict or stood up to a bully when you were a kid.

Visit the library. Visit a free public museum.

Visit a garden. Take a walk in the woods.

Plant seeds from something you’ve eaten, such as apples or watermelons.

Draw on the sidewalk with sidewalk chalk. Run through the sprinklers together.

Take your dog to a dog park or visit the local humane society.

Volunteer together. Bake brownies or cupcakes together.

Have a tea party. Play school or office together.

Swing on the swings together. Have a water balloon fight.

Jump on a trampoline together. Visit a nursing home.

Make your own treasure map. Play 20 questions.

Play I Spy. Wash your car together.

Listen to your favorites songs together. Listen to an audio CD together.

Make pancakes in the shape of your child’s initials.

Make ice cream floats for dessert. Race matchbox cars.

Teach your dog tricks. Teach your child a song you sang as a kid.

Read your favorite childhood picture book together.

Make a family tree. Make your own memory game out of family photographs.

Scrapbook together. Help your child send an email to a grandparent, aunt, or uncle.

Make a care package to send to a relative who lives far away.

Write encouraging letters to each other and then mail them three months from now.

Draw caricatures of each other. Write a story together.

Have a picnic outside or on the living room floor.

Build animal families out of homemade play-doh.

Role play how to handle a tough situation, like making friends, or saying no to peer pressure.

Teach your child how to ride a bike. Make up a silly song together.

Teach one another some new dance moves. Catch fireflies.

Tell your child three things you really like about him or her.

Make a special breakfast “just because.” Take a trust walk.

Make necklaces out of colored pasta shapes and dental floss.

Make swords out of rolled up newspaper, and have a pretend sword fight.

Climb a tree. Play tennis.

Put on skits for your neighbors. Make a meal together for someone else.

Have something unusual for dinner-like air-popped popcorn and fresh fruit.

Build something out of trash/recycling items.

Create a new voicemail message together.

Make a slideshow of your favorite digital photographs.

Pick flowers and press them in wax paper. Make bookmarks.

Let your child teach you about something he or she knows or does well.

Collect leaves and then try to identify them by researching them online or at the local library.

Make life-size drawings of each other on the back of some old wrapping paper.

Play in the sand together, at the beach, a local park, or your child’s own sandbox.

Go bird watching. Play catch or soccer.

Help your child practice a sport he or she enjoys.

Visit a local music store and sample each other’s favorite artists.

Go to a free event for kids’ sponsored by your local library or a book, craft, or hardware store.

Write messages on the mirror for one another with soap.

Create memory boxes for your child’s favorite pictures, artwork, and mementos.

Create a special place in your home for displaying your child’s artwork.

Let him or her choose what to display in the place mentioned above.

Help your child fix a broken item or toy.

Watch your child play a sport or take him or her to see a friend’s game.

Visit a skate park together and watch older kids do tricks.


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