What is Commitment to Family about?

Commitment to family is the foundation on which the other five family strength characteristics are built. The family is the place where we learn that we have value as a person and that we belong. Family is the place where we are protected from the dangers of the world and are empowered with the skills to protect ourselves. Family is the place where we learn how to relate to others- developing trust in relationships; realizing we will get hurt and learning to forgive and how to repair wounded relationships. Family is the place where you learn the values to live by and traditions to hold dear. Family is the place where you can always come home to.

Commitment to Family has six (6) characteristics*:

1.Commitment to Marriage

2.Commitment to Each Individual

3.Commitment to Putting First Things First

4.Commitment to Honesty

5.Commitment to Family Traditions

6.Commitment to the Long Haul

*Adapted from Fantastic Families by Dr. Nick & Nancy Stinnett and Joe & Alice Beam

Spiritual Well-Being- What is faith?

Faith is an idea or concept that I believe we practice more often than we realize. Think of the times in our everyday lives that we must exercise faith. For instance, the simple act of sitting in a chair is really an act of faith. You must exercise faith when you decide to sit in the chair by assessing, “Is this chair going to hold me up?” And by faith you sit, having faith that it’s going to hold you up. You often hear people say I don’t want to have blind faith. I agree that blind faith is not a good idea. Remember the sitting in a chair example. What if you look at the chair and discover that it has missing bolts and is leaning, and seat is loose with bent legs. You would be right to question its ability to hold you up and it would be right to not put your faith in that chair.

Another everyday life example is when you travel to distant city that you have never see or visited before. You have faith that the city actually exists and that you’ll be able to get there at some point and do whatever you have planned to do in that city. Again, you are exercising faith that the city exist when you may have not seen that city before.

How does this discussion apply to our family strength of spiritual well-being?

We all exercise faith in our daily lives using several criteria:

1. Evidence of Reliability– Just as we make a judgement about whether a chair is reliable in being able to support use when we sit on it. We need to know when we desire to build our spiritual well-being that what we place our faith in is reliable. When considering faith in God we need to know that the evidence for the object of our faith is reliable. How do we determine the reliability of evidence for a God we cannot see? This is where the claims of Christianity far outweigh the claims of other religious faiths. Jesus claimed to be God and his claims can be examined and tested for reliability.

2. Testimony of Others– Just as we exercise faith to know that the cities we have never visited really do exist because we rely on the testimony of others. Faith in God is assisted by and discovered using the testimony of others. We hear the testimony of people who have had their lives transformed by the love of Jesus who was sent by God. You can read the testimony in the Bible. This faith perspective in life began when a group of Jesus’ disciples change from a depressed, fearful group to an empowered, encouraged group that were willing to die for the risen Jesus.

Next: Why is it important to consider faith in God & Jesus and Biblical authority as part of your spiritual well-being?

What does it mean to be a person?

Let’s talk about, what it means to be a person? You may have heard the idea that each person is made up of Body, Soul and Spirit.

The Body- The human body is the entire structure of a human being. It has a skeletal interior of bones that are bound together with tendons and ligaments. Then the exterior is composed of many different types of cells that together create tissues and subsequently organ systems. On the microscopic level DNA/RNA/Proteins[i] grow and repair tissue, bones and organs.

Physiology focuses on the systems and organs of the human body and their functions. Many systems and mechanisms interact in order to help the body function at full health.

It is truly amazing how the complex body, in all its diverse parts works so well together almost without effort.

Soul- noun – the moral and emotional nature of human beings

This consists of Thoughts, the Will and Emotions.  

Thoughts– noun

  1. an idea or opinion produced by thinking or occurring suddenly in the mind.

“Maggie had a sudden thought”

synonyms: idea, notion, opinion, view, impression, feeling, theory; judgment, assessment, conclusion

“What are your thoughts on the matter?”

Will– will/ noun 1. the faculty by which a person decides on and initiates action.

“She has an iron will”

synonyms: determination, willpower, strength of character, resolution, resolve, resoluteness, single-mindedness, purposefulness, drive, commitment, dedication, doggedness, tenacity, tenaciousness, staying power

“The will to succeed”

Emotions-emotion/noun   3. any strong agitation of the feelings actuated by experiencing love, hate, fear, etc., and usually accompanied by certain physiological changes, as increased heartbeat or respiration, and often overt manifestation, as crying or shaking.  derived on the model of movoir: motion, from esmovoir to set in motion, move the feelings

Synonyms: feeling, passion, sentiment

Spirit-The English word “spirit” comes from the Latin spiritus, meaning “breath”

An incorporeal but ubiquitous, non-quantifiable substance or energy present individually in all living things.

This is what make you a unique person. You have a unique giftedness, personality, and temperament.

Each one of us have been born as a little baby. But did we just start growing only after we were born? 

There is clearly a time when the process of new life begins. The process of new life beginning for humans is when a sperm and egg meet and a new life begins to grow and develop. During that growth, there are many stages in which all the characteristics that made you unique as a person develop in you.

The Spirit of a Person

When we talk about the “spirit” of a person, we could describe it best by asking the following question. What leaves the body when we die? I would suggest to you that it is the “spirit” of that individual person that leaves the body.

We have many people who have reported, “out of body experiences” that I believe illustrates the idea that the “spirit of a person” is the life source of each of us as individuals.

When we talk about a life source, we then have to consider where does that life source come from and where does it go when we take our last breathe?

I would like you to consider the possibility that there is a source of life that is far bigger than what we can understand, yet has given us many clear signposts to point us to identification and connection to that source of life.

Spiritual well-being has most to do with a belief system.  We all have beliefs or guiding principles for our lives.  Each individual forms beliefs or guiding principles through life experiences.  The impact of life experiences whether they are traumatic or nurturing, contributes to how we look at people, our own abilities and flaws and our outlook on life.

Next: We will explore the source of life and what faith has to do with spiritual well-being.

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What is Spiritual Well-Being?

What is Spiritual Well-Being?

The foundational principle for Spiritual Well-Being is :Every human being has a sense that there is a power far greater than themselves.

That power is a sense of awe we feel when we look at the artistry and intricacy of the nature that is all around us. There is a connection or alignment that gives you peace and contentment.

Merriam-Webster defines spiritual as:

of or related to a person’s spirit;

of or related to religion or religious belief;

having similar values and ideas: related or joined in spirit.

Families contain individual people. Each person in the family has the ability to think, reason and act as individuals, so it is important to examine human nature and how we interact with each other.

The most important answers in life revolve around some basic questions.

When families work together in asking and answering those questions it helps them build connections.

We all have to come to an understanding of the answers to the following questions:

Who am I?

Why am I here?

Why do I act the way I do?

What are my strengths?

What are my flaws?

What is the meaning and purpose of my life?

In upcoming blog posts we will be exploring these questions and how this all relates to creating family connections and building strong and united families.

How Strong are Your Family Connections?

Here are some questions to ask yourself about each area of Family Strengths. Use the following rating scale.

1= Rarely 2= Occasionally 3= Intermittently 4= Often 5= Regularly  6=Consistently

How often are you encouraged in your spiritual well-being of love, sharing, compassion?

How often does family come first by time, energy, spirit and heart devoted to home life?

How often do you spend enjoyable time together as a family?

How often is listening communication and healthy disagreement happening in your family?

How often is appreciation and affection shown in your family?

How often does your family pull together during stress & crisis?

We will be exploring each of the following Strong Family Strengths in our goal of creating connected families.

Spiritual Well-Being

Commitment to Family

Spending Enjoyable Time Together

Positive Communication

Expressing Appreciation & Affection

Coping Effectively with Stress & Crisis

“A healthy family is a place we enter for comfort, development, and regeneration; a place from which we go forth renewed and charged with power for positive living.” Nick Stinnett & John DeFrain